tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9009456656795153408.post7438423910138652759..comments2024-03-28T18:43:53.154-07:00Comments on Meditations of my Heart: Good Job!Martha Jane Orlandohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11620499267401065780noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9009456656795153408.post-66813192513250397532016-07-31T16:49:24.281-07:002016-07-31T16:49:24.281-07:00TC, if you click on the link I provided in this po...TC, if you click on the link I provided in this post, it will give you some positive alternatives to use with your kids. Sure wish I had had that information early on. I still catch myself telling my grandchildren "good job" and have to redirect myself. Shared this with my daughter just this weekend so we can work together to get over this performance tendency.<br />Glad you're reading the book, too! <br />Love and blessings!Martha Jane Orlandohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11620499267401065780noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9009456656795153408.post-77598440271129340582016-07-29T12:24:59.491-07:002016-07-29T12:24:59.491-07:00I'm guilty of having a performance based menta...I'm guilty of having a performance based mentality with God. This book is helping rest in His grace. <br />I fear sometimes that I will pass on this performance mentality to my kids. Thanks for helping me see how the innocent words, good job, can reinforce that mindset. I'll need to spend time in prayer to help me communicate better with my kids. Any suggestions on what I should say to replace "good job"? TC Aveyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01686886257486186821noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9009456656795153408.post-67924783751689079392016-07-28T12:49:48.629-07:002016-07-28T12:49:48.629-07:00Yes, Jason, it is all too easy to slip into that p...Yes, Jason, it is all too easy to slip into that performance/praise mode with our children. It really made me think if I told my kids enough that I love them just because they are who they are. Since they turned out to be loving adults, I guess God helped me to do something right.<br />Love and blessings!Martha Jane Orlandohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11620499267401065780noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9009456656795153408.post-84808463296226828472016-07-28T12:47:19.084-07:002016-07-28T12:47:19.084-07:00I agree absolutely, Linda, that parenting is not f...I agree absolutely, Linda, that parenting is not for sissies. :) Without God's help, I know I never would have made it through as well as I did.<br />Love and blessings!Martha Jane Orlandohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11620499267401065780noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9009456656795153408.post-65265527602522144422016-07-28T08:13:55.058-07:002016-07-28T08:13:55.058-07:00So easy to fall into that habit as a parent, isn&#...So easy to fall into that habit as a parent, isn't it? I have to consciously make myself work grace (and the explanation of it) into the equation, but it's so important! Great thoughts, Martha. So happy God doesn't just look at our performance as a basis of anything.jasonShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03420776820764592085noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9009456656795153408.post-57872815983658752052016-07-28T05:31:03.681-07:002016-07-28T05:31:03.681-07:00Parenting is not for the faint of heart, is it! I...Parenting is not for the faint of heart, is it! I look back and wonder how I did it ... and then I remember Who did it through me, for me, with me.<br /><br />And I am so very grateful ...Linda Stollhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15568264417855502332noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9009456656795153408.post-56011519532178781162016-07-28T04:13:01.040-07:002016-07-28T04:13:01.040-07:00Amen, Jean! One day, that struggle will truly be ...Amen, Jean! One day, that struggle will truly be over.<br />Love and blessings!Martha Jane Orlandohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11620499267401065780noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9009456656795153408.post-5307139852994423282016-07-28T04:12:28.357-07:002016-07-28T04:12:28.357-07:00Yes, that performance trap can definitely lead to ...Yes, that performance trap can definitely lead to a "works" mentality, Kim. It is such a relief to know God loves us just as we are.<br />Love and blessings!Martha Jane Orlandohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11620499267401065780noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9009456656795153408.post-66171798700546473252016-07-28T04:11:15.025-07:002016-07-28T04:11:15.025-07:00Amen, Carol, faith, not works!
Love and blessings!...Amen, Carol, faith, not works!<br />Love and blessings!Martha Jane Orlandohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11620499267401065780noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9009456656795153408.post-71592123593806626992016-07-28T04:10:44.940-07:002016-07-28T04:10:44.940-07:00So, so true, Glynn!
Love and blessings!So, so true, Glynn!<br />Love and blessings!Martha Jane Orlandohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11620499267401065780noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9009456656795153408.post-41345982479527520132016-07-27T18:37:14.823-07:002016-07-27T18:37:14.823-07:00so true. I read the other day that all humans shar...so true. I read the other day that all humans share the same two basic fears: of not being enough and not being accepted/loved. Someday we won't struggle with that any moreJean Wisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06407030126646055880noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9009456656795153408.post-88746878495147730002016-07-27T13:22:56.854-07:002016-07-27T13:22:56.854-07:00Martha, you are correct in what you have shared he...Martha, you are correct in what you have shared here. It's so easy to fall into the trap of performing to gain approval--God's approval, the approval of important others. Thankfully, God has a much different view of things and of us. Having a "performance orientation" can lead to a "works" mentality, leaving God out.<br /><br />Love and Blessings!<br />Kim Jollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08670842504983601263noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9009456656795153408.post-11201343251818964082016-07-27T12:22:15.768-07:002016-07-27T12:22:15.768-07:00As you said, when we understand grace we will real...As you said, when we understand grace we will realize we can't make God love us more or bless us more than He already has promised. God requires faith - not works.Battered Hopehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04084857421183756543noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9009456656795153408.post-564427480908483232016-07-27T03:31:02.158-07:002016-07-27T03:31:02.158-07:00We hunger for approval, and look everywhere for it...We hunger for approval, and look everywhere for it except the one place we'll find it.Glynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10802111972232088511noreply@blogger.com