2 Corinthians 1:10
But as surely as God is faithful, our message to you is not "Yes" and "No".
Do you say what you mean and mean what you say?
Is your "yes" authentic? Is your "no" for real?
While I can answer all these questions in the affirmative now, there are years in my past when my addiction to people-pleasing clouds my sense of self. That genuine self. The one so burdened, so chained, it doesn't even know how to cry out for freedom.
Not wanting to step on toes. Not wishing to hurt anyone's feelings.
I float on the tides of others. Never making waves. Saying nothing to rock the boat.
While my shrinking-violet self cowers on a shelf. Gathering dust. Insecurity. Uncertainty.
Fear . . .
Because, to express that self means I could make someone angry. Resentful. Spiteful. Hurtful.
Peace! I want peace. At any cost.
A "yes" that should be a "no". A "no" that should be a "yes".
And, I want to be liked. By everyone.
Which is impossible.
Because, the old adage is true - you can't please all the people all the time. Nor, should you try . . .
Slowly, but surely, the hard way, I learn this.
I reclaim my self on the shelf. Take her down gently. Meticulously dust her off.
And, in seeing her restoration, I weep. For all the times I ignored her. Didn't trust her. Refused to believe she could stand on her own two feet. As, God knows she can . . .
I abandoned her. She was so alone. As I, in debonair nonchalance, thought I could make the world my friend.
When, all along, she deserves nothing less than my love. God's love.
I know that now . . .
For, God's love finds me. He calls me His friend.
I am precious in His sight.
And, now, He is the only one I wish to please.
Are you a recovering "people-pleaser"? I welcome your stories here!
Will you join me in prayer?
Help us, Father, to be the real, authentic self You created us to be. Thank You for your ever faithful love and friendship. May we so do Your will and walk in Your ways that others will see Your steadfast love through us and come to know You. Amen.
Psalms 6, 12 or 94
2 Corinthians 1:8-22