Monday, October 21, 2024

My Best Face Forward

 


Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. ~Proverbs 31:30


I have worn makeup for most of my adult life.  Not heavy, mind you, but enough so that I feel, when in public, I'm putting my best face forward.  Maybe, that sounds vain to some of you, but as my foundation contains sunscreen in it, and my skin is quite fair, it does afford me that extra protection from the harmful UV rays that tend to prematurely age one's skin, and possibly lead to skin cancer.

The interruption of my daily makeup routine happens during the pandemic.  Really, when half of your face is covered by and unseemly mask, and you aren't around strangers on a day to day basis, why bother?  I realize that I would only be wasting money by continuing to use it.  And Danny?  He is more than a good sport about the whole thing.  He'll tell me, honestly, that my wearing makeup doesn't affect the way he sees me, and I look as fine as when we met over twenty years ago.  Yes, ladies, he's a keeper!

But let's face (pun intended) the facts.  With every passing year, we are all growing older.  The suppleness of youthful skin, no matter how much care we give it, will eventually betray our age.  We can angst about wrinkles and crow's feet, but I prefer to look at them as badges of honor.  A life lived joyfully, with frequent smiles that involve a full facial expression, is destined to create this phenomenon over time.  And no amount of makeup can erase those.

Our outward charm and beauty cannot last, no matter what potions and remedies and snake-oil promises the advertisers would have us believe contain the fountain of youth.  True confession:  I've fallen for lots of them in the past, and guess what?  They don't work!  Oh, there might be a temporary benefit here or there, and if you know of one that you trust, please feel free to leave your info in the comment section.  

In the grand schemes of things, though, I do NOT want to be remembered because I wore fancy makeup.  I already know that I'm beautiful in God's eyes just as I am.  When the time comes for me to return home to Him, I hope and pray that the people most dear to me will remember me as a person whose heart beat for the Lord, and they could always see Jesus in everything I said and did while I was here on earth, loving them all.  Could there be a better legacy than that?

Yes, with or without makeup, may we all strive to put our best face forward for God and His glory.

Amen!

66 comments:

  1. Hi Martha Jane, I have worn makeup since my early teens. I enjoy putting it on my face but not too heavy. I think part of it with me might be because I love painting portraits. :-) I have eastern Mediterranean skin, as I am Jewish, so it does not wrinkle early. Not that it matters because it is 'love', not 'looks' that joins me and my husband. God bless.

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    1. Love not looks . . . That's such a great phrase, Brenda, and it's totally true. I will always make the effort to put makeup on when we are planning to be out and about, as we will be later today. And I love to know that you enjoy painting portraits - such talent! God has given you some special gifts!
      Love and blessings!

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  2. Hi Martha! I have never worn makeup. :) I know lousy joke. I do, however, know the reality of watching my skin change and thin. Even though I never was overweight, I can see some sagging. I hit my arm and it is not unusual for a blood drop to appear and I have either not known or forgotten when I hit my arm. :) Getting old and facing the truth about oneself is necessary. Ain't no way I'm doing botox or any filler or artificial anything (unless it is the knee I'm about to get). I relish being accepted by God no matter how I look.

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    1. No botox for me, either, Bill! Aging might not be a pretty thing when it hits us personally, but we should rejoice in the fact that God has seen fit to allow us to do His will for however long we have here on earth. I also have that type of bruising, and have to be extra careful not to bump up against things with my arms. Let's be as content as we can possibly be with how God made us.
      Love and blessings!

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  3. Catholics, (and other denominations), believe that when we're in Heaven we will have new bodies. Perfect ones, without wrinkles, and aches and pains of old age, or illness. I never understood that.

    I asked a priest once whether I'll have the same body as now, or a young and youthful one and handsome as I was when younger? How will other people recognise me if I look different and they knew me in my young body and not as now?

    He replied, "People will know you all right!"

    What did he mean?

    God bless you, Martha. And thank you for this thought-provoking post.

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    1. What did that priest mean by that? I'm not sure, and I don't think he does, either - LOL! I really believe that if we do God's will here on earth, loving Him and others, we will be recognized by the ones in heaven who have gone before us.
      Love and blessings!

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  4. I married a Southern girl, and I've lived with the reality of makeup ever since.

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    1. LOL, Glynn! That's such an astute observation. Yes, we Southern gals do like our makeup, don't we, Janet?
      Love and blessings!

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  5. Well said, Martha. Thank you. Fleeting beauty can’t begin to compare to Jesus’ promises.

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    1. So, so true, Diana. Nothing in this world can ever compare to the promises of Jesus. Let's hold fast to them!
      Love and blessings!

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  6. I stopped wearing make-up when I retired from the Museum in 2017. It has been so freeing!! Here in the south, it is HOT and I am not a delicate southern bell who only gets a delicate feminine glow - I all out sweat (sorry if TMI). Now I don't have to blot my face or wonder if my collar has make-up on it. I DO have a tinted moisturizer that I will smooth on if there is a special occasion just to feel like I went the extra mile but my daily, factor 30, moisturizer is my norm. My skin feels better and so do I!!

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    1. Anything that makes our skin look and feel better is so worth it, Terri. I hear you about the sweat factor, too. I don't do well in the extreme heat and do NOT want to spend a summer without air conditioning here in Georgia. I can't imagine how bad Florida's climate would feel and admire you and all my blogging buddies who live there.
      Love and blessings!

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  7. Enjoyed the post this morning. I do wear sunscreen moisturizer under my makeup. I haven't always been faithful about it but the more I hear of skin cancer rearing it's ugly head the more I think about it. I do wear makeup and have for years. I don't wear heavy makeup but I love to try our new makeups. LIPSTICK is my favorite. LOL! I am well known by my friends and family for being sure to have my lips painted. LOL! I tease my daughters and tell them that they would feel so much if they would paint those lips. LOL! However, my makeup surely doesn't define me in who I am in Christ. But, I was raised by a grandmother that always believed in looking your best. I hope you have a rest of a good week dear one. Remember, you are beautiful in Christ. Hugs and blessings, Cindy

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    1. In the eyes of Jesus, Cindy, we are all God's masterpieces, aren't we? I love what your grandmother told you when you were growing up, to always look your best whenever you are out and about with others. And lipstick? LOL! I just started using some again and it DOES make me feel better, though it does have to be a softer color. Can't do those bright reds!
      Love and blessings!

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  8. Dearest Martha Jane,
    As for me, very little and I've actually never used any colored foundation.
    Just a good cream with protection against the sun, mainly I used Chanel.
    A silk powder from Yves Delorme that I kept for years and still is some left.
    My eyes need some help though as otherwise as a blonde I'm not having enough expression. Lipstick is mainly the one with rose lip balm and always in a natural color. My hair has never ever seen any dye so in general I'm not a good makeup user.
    Eating healthy and being outdoors in the fresh air does a lot more for your skin. Having always done analytical work, I did check at ewg.org for cancer causing ingredients!
    Love your final part about our true legacy as our Creator intended.
    It is not about our looks but about the depth of our soul!
    Hugs,
    Mariette

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    1. Thanks for sharing which products you have used over the years, Mariette. I used to get blonde highlights in my hair, but quit doing so during the pandemic, too. Now, I'm really enjoying my natural hair color, originally blonde, but now a bit darker, though my grey hair does lighten it up overall. Lots cheaper than having it colored, for sure.
      And yes, God looks at the heart, not the outward appearance.
      Love and blessings!

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  9. How your words warm my heart! Only when I retired did I slow the application of full "war paint." Aside from my otherwise non-existent eyebrows -- sometimes I refrain altogether. Like Terri said, "it's freeing!".
    "Just as I am, without one plea....."

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    1. I love that phrase "war paint," Myra. Yes, applying makeup can take a lot of our time, and we can go too far with our decorating. It is freeing to go without it, and I do when our only plans are to stay at home for the day. And we all know that God takes us just as we are and loves us because He made us.
      Love and blessings!

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  10. Beauty is indeed fleeting but still I try to hold on too (not that I think I'm beautiful). God promises we don't have to keep our failing bodies for eternity when we're with Jesus. I'm so thankful for that.
    "Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day."
    2 Corinthians 4:16 NIV

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    1. I love the verse you shared here from 2 Corinthians, Sparky. Most importantly, I'm overjoyed to see you back in Blogland! I have been praying for Steve and you ever since the hurricane hit and it's a relief to know you made it through safe and sound. Always remember that you are beautiful always in the eyes of Jesus.
      Love and blessings!

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  11. Amen! I love your thoughts on the make-up. I do wear some out when I have an appointment or see the kids. I just turned 73 and I am truly getting tired of wearing make-up.

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    1. I hear you, Debby. I'll turn 70 on my next birthday, and honestly, that doesn't seem possible. Where have the years flown? I take comfort in knowing that it's not about the makeup, it's about my relationship with the Lord.
      Love and blessings!

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  12. Well said, Martha! I totally agree. I only put on makeup about once a week & very little. Now I do slather on the moisturizer! What I have noticed is most are not paying any attention to me- I finally have a super power- I’m invisible 😜
    Blessings- Lulu

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    1. I'm envious of your superpower, Lulu, that's for sure! Somedays, I wish I were invisible. I'm glad to hear that moisturizer works well for you. I do use that, too, after washing my face. It does help me, too.
      Love and blessings!

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  13. We all got to be our real selves, no need to fancy up and not be who we really are. I see photos of people who still try to be young using the latest surgery and they look terrible. We should be proud of who we are and what we accomplished and how we live.

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    1. Amen, Bill! Some folks think their looks define them. I would NOT ever have any kind of facial surgery as you're so right - it doesn't look real. I think I'll just do my best to age gracefully and in God's time.
      Love and blessings!

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  14. I love these words that you have spoken. While I do wear makeup if I am going out somewhere, I do not wear it at home. I am and always have been a SAHM and I feel the same as you. Why waste the money when there is not a need. I do wear a sunscreen that has a tiny bit of color. I think it is great for our skin to be moisturized and nothing more, when possible. Often, my husband will say, you do not need to wear makeup..your face looks healthy without it. Great Post Martha

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    1. Aww, Shug, your hubby sounds just like Danny. We married up, didn't we? LOL! I did wear makeup today as we had some errands to run, but tomorrow? I'm going to go with the moisturizer and that's it.
      Love and blessings!

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  15. Many friends have also stopped dying their hair, I am a hold out!

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    1. I probably would have kept on doing that, Christine, but the pandemic had me changing my mind. It really was the right call as my hair didn't need that stress on it. It's definitely now thicker and healthier because I take Nutrafol and use the generic Rogaine on my scalp at night. It works!
      Love and blessings!

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  16. I'm another who still wears makeup, Martha! A little mascara here, a little blush there, etc. helps to brighten my face considerably! / I like Eleanor Roosevelt's statement about beauty: "Beautiful young people are accidents of nature; beautiful old people are works of art." Indeed, it's WHO we are, not so much what we look like that make an impact on those around us. I like what Lauren Bacall had to say too, which echoes your thoughts on wrinkles and crows' feet: "Your whole life shows in your face and you should be proud of that."

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    1. Oh, Nancy, I love both of the quotes you've shared here today - they are stellar and true! Our lives do show in our faces, and I pray my own face will reveal a life lived for God and His glory. I want His love to shine through all of me.
      Love and blessings!

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  17. Martha Jane: I don't usually wear make-up for a very personal reason. When I try to, it doesn't seem to stay on as I think it should. As I get older, I try to wear it from time to time. As I type this, I am getting ready to go to a church board meeting. I believe I will try to at least get on some lipstick. Peace and blessings to you and yours.

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    1. My mother wasn't into makeup at all, Cecelia, but she never, ever left the house without wearing her lipstick. Sometimes, just that can bring brightness to our complexion without involving more complicated routine.
      Love and blessings!

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    1. Yes, it is, Snobe, I confess. LOL!
      Love and blessings!

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  19. It’s who we are in the inside that God sees.

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    1. Amen, Debby! God sees our hearts where His love resides.
      Love and blessings!

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  20. Martha, you do put your best face forward, not only in makeup, but in letting the face of Jesus shine in you. This is a prayer I wrote a few years ago journaling, "Father, let my face glow with Jesus' beauty, my heart beat with His passion, my soul bloom with His glory and holiness. Amen." God bess! Karen Friday

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    1. Oh, my goodness, Karen, your amazing poem gave me God-bumps as I read it! That should be a prayer we should all recite daily. Thanks so much for sharing it here, my friend!
      Love and blessings!

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  21. So true, Martha. I'm getting more facial wrinkles these past years, so I smiled when you called them "badges of honor." :) This especially brings tears to my eyes as it's my heart's desire as well - "When the time comes for me to return home to Him, I hope and pray that the people most dear to me will remember me as a person whose heart beat for the Lord, and they could always see Jesus in everything I said and did while I was here on earth, loving them all." Love and blessings to you!

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    1. Thanks so much for your kind and thoughtful comment here, Trudy. Yes, those wrinkles and flaws are badges of honor that we should wear proudly from a life well lived. May we be remembered by our love for the Lord by all those we leave behind.
      Love and blessings!

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  22. Excellent observations, Martha. I, too, wear makeup but also like you, not heavy. I like for my skin tone to be smoothed out. As I age I have come to believe my faded eyebrows need a bit of light brown pencil -- otherwise I sort of look invisible!!! Ha-ha!

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    1. I hear you, Barbara. We do want to look our best as we shine for Jesus every day, don't we? None of us is getting any younger, that's for sure.
      Love and blessings!

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  23. I so agree Martha! It is our inward hearts condition that truly matters, and aging will affect us all! How wonderful to know that as we age, we grow more precious in the sight of the Lord, our years of loving Him mean so much. May we all seek to be remembered for our heart's condition, and not the outward appearance that is so fleeting. Many blessings to you dear friend!

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    1. Amen, Marilyn! May we all shine more and more for Jesus as we age in love for Him.
      Love and blessings!

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  24. True beauty comes from a life centered on Jesus. B Blessed Martha!

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    1. Jesus IS the source of all true beauty, Mike, in this life and the next.
      Love and blessings!

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  25. love your honest and vulnerability. and Yes Danny is a keeper!

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  26. Ahhh... the sweet relief of testosterone, and the gratitude for being born when folks didn't have to consider calling in a therapist, a couple of social workers, and a few political activists, and to consult with the doctors to figure out which gender their kids were. I've contributed my share of masculine idiocy over the years and suffered a well earned collection of scars in the process. But, thankfully, I'm about as well versed in the subject of women's makeup as VP Harris seems to be when it comes to explaining where she stands on anything other than killing babies. But I digress... I really just want to say that I loved how engaging your insightful and very personal post was. Even though I haven't had an opportunity to see your face in person, you've given us many opportunities to see the heart that beats beneath it. And as you indicated, the evidence is that it continues to beat for Jesus. Thank you again for the encouraging testimony.

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    1. Ron, I must confess that reading your comment here made me laugh, and realize all over again, why this day and age in which we now live is patently NOT what it used to be. I pray that we can return to the land of two genders, no men in women's sports, and hearts that beat for God and His glory. Your astute observations, as always, are like a breath of fresh air.
      Love and blessings!

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  27. Your faith perspective adds such a meaningful touch to the conversation about self-image. I love your reminder that our legacy is built on how we love and serve others. Thank you for sharing! Happy weekend. I hope it's a happy one for you. I’ve just posted something new, and I'd love to hear what you think. Please give it a read! https://www.melodyjacob.com/2024/10/the-social-media-trap-of-judging-relationships-by-one-sided-narratives.html

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    1. Thanks so much for your kind and thoughtful comment here today, Melody, and I will certainly check out your blog.
      Love and blessings!

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  28. I totally agree—true beauty comes from within, and it’s great to see you embrace aging with grace. I love your take on makeup as self-care, not vanity. It's all about how we shine for God and love those around us. Thanks for sharing such an uplifting message!

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    1. I'm so happy to know that the message here resonated with you, Veronica! Yes, let's put our best face forward in serving God and our neighbor with love and kindness, and let the beauty of Jesus shine through us.
      Love and blessings!

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    2. Haha! Right now it's hard to put my best face forward with my neighbors upstairs. Please pray for me that they will move out soon, dearest Martha.

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    3. I certainly will keep praying, Veronica!

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  29. You know, I am pretty sure I commented, but I don't see it, maybe I didn't, who knows...old age, that is my story, and I am sticking to it. I only wear makeup during the week-wouldn't want to scare anyone, would we? lol

    I am not as young as I use to be, and I should have taken better care of myself...but that is that...thank you for keeping it real, Martha Jane. smiles

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    1. Thanks so much, Linda, for your comment here, and thanks for trying again to leave your thoughts. Yes, sometimes Blogger just has a "senior moment" and comments will disappear for no reason. See, we aren't the only ones getting older - LOL!
      Love and blessings!

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  30. thecontemplativecat here. Just came back from a 55th class reunion! Yeah, I am old. But, there we were 60 students left out of 120. We all looked old, but I looked less older than that. Good skin routine every day and wearing a hat in the sun works that way. Of course, it is all perspective.

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    1. I was told to wear sunscreen and a hat when I'm in the sun from my mid-twenties, and I know that has truly helped my skin over these many decades, Susan. We had our 50th class reunion last year, and those in attendance, for the most part, still looked wonderful to me, even though we had all, obviously, aged over time. Only 60 remaining out of 120 graduating classmates is a sad statistic. I'm not sure what our actual percentage was because not all that many showed up. Let's continue to put our best faces before God!
      Love and blessings!

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